could use some prayers for work

Discussion in 'The Chatter Box' started by StaceyRosado, Dec 13, 2008.

  1. StaceyRosado

    StaceyRosado Administrator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Oct 4, 2007
    NJ
    Last night I was upset about a note my boss left on my station (I am a hair stylist at SuperCuts) and the only way for her to know certain things was for my coworker to have "tattled" on me about stuff. Now the word tattled denotes the idea that I was in the wrong, I wasn't. I accidentally put the old magazines in the wrong trashcan and I didnt start the clean up when she wanted me to because we still had a whole 30 minutes left of work and it takes 3 minutes to sweep, empty trash and start the wash and there was potential for more customers to come in.

    Ok needless to say I was rather upset about being told on that I wasnt pulling my own weight and that I dont clean and i put magazines in the wrong can --- yeesh it wasnt on purpose nor it is a sin!

    Anyway I was stressed over that and my dad caught wind of it and we got to talking and suddenly all this stuff with work started to spill out and I was telling him details on how i am treated at work and how the girls walk all over me (if I try to stick up for myself I get cussed out or yelled at) and if i just let it go and smile sweetly and agree to how they want to do things they still "tattle" on me and make everything my fault even when I never do the same about them (I could SO easily tell our boss about stuff she wouldnt otherwise know about but I choose not to because it wouldnt be right)


    I know this is hardly making any sense because you have no idea what i am talking about but it feels good to tell someone else as well.


    After an hour or more of talking my dad is able to convince me that leaving is in my best interest and it isnt because I am fleeing the difficulities I am removing myself from being hurt and emotionally upset each day. I try to not let it get to me and shrug it off and forget what is said and done(hence why I cant give you details - I just dont know them, but I know I am treated badly).

    I am asking for prayers that I can find another job close to home. I know there are jobs out there but the economy is bad so I dont know if I will find one close to home. I really dont want to have to drive far if I need to rush home for my goats, plus I hate a long drive to work.


    Pray also for strength to make it through the days and weeks to come until I find a job. I am just tired of being lied about, and being told I said or did things I didnt do. I dislike being treated like the new girl even after being there a year and especially being treated like i know nothing from the new girl herself!

    I have a meeting with my boss over the "tattles" told on me on Tuesday. she says I am not in trouble but I she has to follow up on what was said. Stupid! Especially since the person who is talking about me is late every day and not just by like 2 minutes by like 20 minutes every day! and she is still working there even after being written up. I am ontime every day or early and I am late one day and there is a note stating we all have been late and we need to work on being on time! :hair: I have had it!



    Thanks for praying for me, I appreciate it :grouphug:
     
  2. Tog Lovers

    Tog Lovers New Member

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    Oct 10, 2007
    Greensburg, PA
    OH Stacy, I know exactly how you feel. :hug: Your dad is right you should look for another job. And if there isn't any place close to you maybe even look into opening your own place. (Do others have to go far for this service if they don't like the place you are at now?) And don't be afraid to stand up for yourself when you talk to your boss. Just say that you have noticed things the others have done but haven't said anything because you realize how much she/he has to deal with and you felt that petty high school back stabbing was something she/he shouldn't have to worry about. Stating it in a way that sounds like you don't want to bother your boss with minor problems shows that you appreciate the complexity of their job.

    I hope everything works out well for you. Let us know how it goes.
     

  3. toth boer goats

    toth boer goats Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Jul 20, 2008
    Corning California
    sounds like you are not ...being treated fairly.....also sounds like the co-worker is giving you a hard time because she is jealous of you....and feels that her job is at risk because you are doing a better job.......she is definitely trying to get you fired....throwing away magazines in the wrong trash is a simple mistake....and something so ridicules to tattle about...if the co-worker is late...all the time....her job should be in jeopardy...not yours.......
    I will pray that things turn around for the better for you....wether you keep that job or seek a new one..... :hug: :pray:
     
  4. liz

    liz Active Member

    Oct 5, 2007
    Shelocta PA
    I agree with Tog Lovers....and I've been there myself, though I won't tell ya how I solved my issue I can say that being tough worked.

    Sending prayers for your guidence in what you should do :hug:
     
  5. StaceyRosado

    StaceyRosado Administrator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Oct 4, 2007
    NJ
    my boss has tried to get her fired (at least so she says) but the owner doesnt want to have to pay her unemployment :angry:


    actually I knew the magazines were suppose to go in the back trash can but I had them in my hand and a customer came in instead of putting them on the counter I dumped them in the trash can under the counter. I was going to remove them later but was busy with customers --- hence miss tattle tale found them before i could remove them. I didnt know it would cause such a ruckus though :roll:


    she has called me an F---- idiot to my boss while I was standing right there. as well as yelling at me so badly that a client had to make her stop! Yah she has issues :scratch:

    but then suddenly the new girl started acting like her and today accused me of accusing her of stealing, where she got that idea is still a mystery :sigh:

    I am tired of the disrespect.

    actually until my dad told me to leave I wasnt thinking that direction. I was just letting it all go and wasnt thinking that I should be expecting anything different. But he says I should be respected more and that the emotional damage could be worse if I dont move on. My Dad is pretty wise so I usually listen to him. :thumbup:
     
  6. Amos

    Amos New Member

    Oct 2, 2008
    Minnesota
    Maybe this lady told the new girl some stories to her?

    No one should have to deal with ANY of that, I would definently look else where.

    My mom always told me that I should only work where I'm comfortable and doing something I enjoy. Are there any other hair dressing places near, or were you looking towards something totally different?
     
  7. AlaskaBoers

    AlaskaBoers New Member

    May 6, 2008
    Wasilla Alaska
    i totally agree, that was uncalled for, especially swearing, hurtful comments. Probably not a safe work environment, your boss shouldnt put up with it either....

    If you do find another job, i'm sure they would wish you were there ,and they hadnt been so rude and hurtful, i'm sure you work very hard.

    Pam also has a good point

    hope everything works out well in the end!
     
  8. Di

    Di Crazy Goat Lady

    Jan 29, 2008
    central PA
    Tell you boss that the other employee is "creating a hostile work environment. If she's a "real" manager, and not just another "kid" in charge, she'll understand that there is a caustic employee there and that's the one to "get rid of". If you go on unemployment make sure you use this term "hostile work environment". You need to go to this meeting with as much information as possible...what's being said...who's she saying it to...etc. That way you can say you tried to "go along to get along" and it's not working. Don't just let them walk all over you. Prayers for you Stacey!
     
  9. RunAround

    RunAround New Member

    Feb 17, 2008
    Massachusetts
    I would leave there when you can. I will be praying that you make it through this and find a wonderful job even closer to home. :hug:
     
  10. sweetgoats

    sweetgoats Moderator

    Oct 18, 2007
    Peyton CO.
    Stacey, I sure will pray that you find a place that appreciates you. I sounds like the others have told you well.

    i am just going to say. Too bad they do not know the Stacey we all know. Not that you are no the same person, just that they apparently have not gotten to know you. :hug:
     
  11. redneck_acres

    redneck_acres New Member

    Oct 17, 2007
    Idaho
    My dad knows exactly how you feel about being treated badly at your job. He is currently on unemployment because he was harrassed out of his job. He had been their the longest out of the employees and all the sudden his boss started treating him like cra*. Every little minor mistake that happened he'd be wrote up for or chewed out about. Another co-worker was treated just as badly. He used to be 2nd under the boss and all the sudden she demoted him and put another guy who hadn't been there as long in his spot. He is still looking for another job-but isn't stressed out like he had been for the last couple of years he was at that place. My job doesn't pay much and the hours are not always guaranteed-but thankfully it is mostly stress free.
     
  12. kelebek

    kelebek New Member

    Oct 5, 2007
    South Texas
    This is exactly why I quit working in Veterinary Medicine as a Nurse. It was a bunch of immature "girls" all in one room for 12 hours a day with a boss that was just as bad as them. I tried 5 or 6 different clinics when I moved back to Washington and they were all the same. So I said forget it - I am outta here! Went to school, and now am in a completely different field and LOVE IT!

    I know that someone brought up maybe opening your own shop - would that be something that may work for you? Maybe you and your father could talk and build a small studio at the property for you???? Just a thought. THat would be perfect for ya!

    You will definately be in my thoughts and I hope that everything works out.

    BTW - If you get fired, how can you collect unemployment? I know in Washington it is "right to work" so if you are fired - no unemployment and you can be realeased for NO reason. But if you leave because of "hostile work environment" or are layed off then you can receive it.
     
  13. toth boer goats

    toth boer goats Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Jul 20, 2008
    Corning California
    I am so sorry stacey ......you are being treated so badly.. :( ...they are very immature... and you need to be in a "mature working environment"...to be able to... enjoy... going to work .........your dad is very wise ....and it will be better in this situation... for you to move on.....
    but.... I would give your boss a week or 2 weeks notice ....Other employers.. frown on people that quit ...and just walk.... rather than.... if you give notice ....your new employer... can trust that you will not...just up and quit on them..... you will have to suffer a little longer.....but in the long run... it will help you.... for your next job......If you can get it in writing and signed from your current boss you gave notice ...he cannot lie and say you never did.....just to be safe....it is a hard world to trust....these days.... :hug:
    If your boss could write you a good reference ......would be great to.....
    I am praying for you ...... :pray:
     
  14. redneck_acres

    redneck_acres New Member

    Oct 17, 2007
    Idaho
    Kelebek, I dont know very much about the unemployment system-but if it is worded in a certain way here you can get unemployment. There is "Fired" or "Permanently layed off". Most of the time folks get fired because they are not doing their job, being permantely layed off happens because of budget cuts or the job just insn't there anymore.
     
  15. kelebek

    kelebek New Member

    Oct 5, 2007
    South Texas
    Yes, there is definately a difference from Lay off and fired. I just wish they could get rid of that nasty lady that is treating Stacey so badly.... :(
     
  16. StaceyRosado

    StaceyRosado Administrator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Oct 4, 2007
    NJ
    it isnt in me to want her to loose her job, I would just like her to stop trying to make life miserable for me.

    I have always giving 2 weeks notice and I wouldnt thinking of doing otherwise :greengrin:


    As to setting up my own store --- I dont have that kind of money right now. Nor is it something I desire.

    I do have a chair and I do plan to make up business cards and follow up more on the people who have asked about getting me to come to their house for hair cuts.

    As to what to charge though I have no clue. :shrug: I want to be fair but going to someones house can be costly if it is a distance away (which most people are because of where I live).


    Thanks all, I am off tomorrow so I am going to make some calls. I have a lead already.
     
  17. toth boer goats

    toth boer goats Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Jul 20, 2008
    Corning California
    that's good I just wanted to make sure you knew...and yep you certainly did......good job.... :)




    You are welcome stacey.......good luck :pray:
     
  18. Laurel_Haven

    Laurel_Haven New Member

    768
    Oct 19, 2007
    South Carolina
    You know I worked in a lab for years as a lab tech and all was fine, and then they hired several new people all at once and after several months it almost became unbearable to even go to work because there was back lashing, rumors, and just misunderstandings everyday. It seemed that everyone was just not getting along. So my supervisor finally had enough and decided we all needed to “meet” each other outside of the workplace. So we had a “girls night out” and we all went out to eat together and just sat around for hours getting to know each other on another level besides the one that we new from work. We had a blast and discovered that we are not always the same person at work as outside of work. Therefore we got a new understanding of each other and from that night on things were much better in the workplace. We all became friends and respected each other for our differences in personalities. And realized we are all just human and sometimes we make mistakes but if we worked together as friends and not just employees we could help each other instead of pass judgment on or run to the boss when things went wrong.
    Maybe if you girls all went out and had a nice evening on the town… even if it was just going out for pizza, or having a nice dinner and a few laughs, just maybe things would become a more friendlier atmosphere at the workplace too.

    Just a suggestion because it worked for us… and it was getting to the point I didn’t want to be there anymore and was thinking of leaving. I was pretty much at the place where you are now. Of course if this isn’t possible or you already have your mind set on leaving… I wish you the best of luck on finding a better work environment to work in. :wink:
     
  19. Amos

    Amos New Member

    Oct 2, 2008
    Minnesota
    Tina, what kind of lab did you work in? My mom is a lab tech.
     
  20. Suellen

    Suellen New Member

    467
    Mar 9, 2008
    Paragonah, Utah