I have been hearing from my neighbor with stronger hints that they did not want me using the upper gate to my pasture as it crossed their land. Well- yes it does- there is an easement deeded to my place for thirty years back for that. It crosses their land for about 20 feet from the road to my place. But I was having a bark delivery one day when the wife comes up to me and said she was not comfortable with my using that gate anymore as she felt I was trying to "create" an easement by using it. I told her there was an easement deeded on her deed and mine so I did have a right to access that gate. I was pretty upset by her implying I had some devious plan to do that and told her so. Then a month later a large pile of brush was put in the middle of the lane to the gate. I thought "well here we go." They are blocking my access. So I sent a certified letter to them telling them that due to wife's remarks, I thought that they were blocking my access, sent a copy of the couty parcel map showing easements and asked them to remove brush pile or I would start a legal action to get it removed. Today I got a let from their attorney saying they did not want me on their land and the pile of brush was a convenient place that they were going to use. So I made an appointment to see an attorney next week. Ugliness reigned. Tonight I was walking back from the mail box, when wife called over asking did I want to talk about this. My first response was to say no but then I said yes. So we spent about 30 minutes talking about it . I got some not nice comments and accusations directed at me about my having accused them of all sorts of things. I had just about had it when wife settled her husband down a bit and things became more civilized. So we agreed to meet this weekend to discuss it further. The husband made a remark about "might as well pay for the road to be re-paved" as to let the lawyers have it. Seems my certified letter had sent him off the deep end- they found it threatening and an offensive escalation beyond reason. I hope we can behave like reasonable people when we meet- they say they had no intention of keeping me from using the lane (?????? ) but make some remarks about being able to come as far into my property as they want to trim trees so we have some differences still. Please send me all the patience you can spare for this talk- I don't want to go to court either - I've never sued anyone nor been sued. Somehow I thing is something to be avoided. This has been hanging over me and upsetting me to no end and want to have it over peaceably.