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Ok, so I am 24 and have been working since I was 16. I worked at a daycare for 5 years, I have been a nanny/babysitter for several families, I have worked summer camps, and I worked for a quadriplegic.
I currently am a nanny for a 5 year old boy and have watched him for a year. I love him to pieces but at times it really sucks for a few reasons:

1) I don't even make minimum wage and my overtime pay is just above minimum wage (I work several hours of overtime per week. I don't get asked, they just show up late). If I clean their house I get an additional $5-$10 per week which is so not worth it because they are slobs. They don't put food away or shut cabinets when they are done and they don't even clean their toilets, they just replace them frequently.

2) I don't get along with the mom (or the momster as I call her). She spoils the kid rotten, still wipes his butt for him, makes deals when he throws fits and most of the time lets him hit, kick, etc. When I tell her if he has had a bad day she shrugs it off and looks at me like I am lying or it's my fault.

3) They want me to take him places but most of the time I don't get paid for gas so gas comes out of my pocket as well as any food I get him when we are out.

Just the other day the quadriplegic contacted me asking if I would like to work for her again. I would start in 5 weeks. While I am waiting for more details I let the kid's parents know that there was a chance I might be switching jobs, just so they would have plenty of notice. Well the mom is being a b**ch about it. She's basically saying that I need to make a decision now and she's already looking at putting the kiddo in full-time school next week which means I would be out of work for at least a month while I waited for the other job to start. I told her that I'm not even sure I would go with that job, but she's still acting all pissed off and implying that I may lose my job for even thinking about switching. I thought I was doing the right thing by giving them the heads up, but now I am regretting it.

I am torn between the 2 jobs. Working for the quadriplegic would be more fun and less drama. She is my age and we get along well. The pay would probably be at least $3 more per hour, maybe even $5 more per hour. But I am a bit worried that I would lose the job sooner than I would the nanny job. The nanny job I would have for at least another year, longer if they get pregnant (they have been trying for awhile). With the quadriplegic, I randomly lost my job because she pulled herself out of therapy and moved away (she is moving back into town in 5 weeks). So there are pros and cons to both jobs.
I need to go with the one that is the most stable and makes more sense financially. But neither one have both the stability and the pay. I have several animals and if I lose my job I don't know how I will feed them.
Where I live now I have had really bad luck with job searching. I went over a year being unemployed and I applied for at least 2-3 jobs per day.
So currently these are my only 2 options and I really need advice.
Sorry for the long rant!
 

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Take the job with the Quadrapelegic lady, look for a better job while working for her. Don't stay at a job where you make less than minimum wage. Consider taking classes also while working for the other lady to make yourself more marketable.
 

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Yes, take the job you enjoy for now and look at options while there

In my area Providence cries for people like you. They need home companions and caregivers badly. They pay well, full benefits, and you set your work hours around your clients. They pay for all your schooling as you move up. Maybe a move is in order?
 

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dealing with crazy people who pay less than what you deserve and treat you like crap is not a way to go. like it was said earlier, you'll be paid more with the quadriplegic, so you'll be a little ahead anyway if it doesn't pan out, but you'll have more fun.

at the end of the day, take the job that you feel is best for YOU. listen to your gut. it knows what's what.

best of luck to you!
 

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I would definitely go to work for the quadriplegic. You said you would enjoy that job more and get a little more cash. That's better than dealing with crazy people bs and getting taken advantage of.

You can always think of future options while you have the job there. In the end though I say go with what you really feel like you want to do. :)
 

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I think the mom is actually hoping I take the other job. Like I said, we don't see eye-to-eye and I have felt before like she was looking for an excuse to let me go. I get along well with the dad. We are on the same page with discipline and I think he likes that I don't coddle his son like his wife does.
I think the mom has been wanting to let me go, but the dad has said no. And this is a perfect excuse for her to get her way, and would explain why less than 24 hours after me saying that I MIGHT take another job she has already looked into putting her son into full-time school.
 

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I would look into applying to a home health care agency. They get paid really well. They get paid from $9-$15 hr depending if you go for the day or you live with them.
 

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Maybe she is jealous of you? Either way, it isn't going to be a good working situation. You deserve more money even if you get along with the dad, that isn't enough money, and you still have to deal with mom.
 
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