First off, let me do a little background on the situation: once upon a time, there were 20 cousins living happily in the mountains of idaho, all living within 5 minutes of each other. *related on mother's side.* They played together 24/7 and as they grew up, they confided their troubles with each other. Then their parents had a big religious conflict and the family ties and bonds were completely shattered. Now: My cousin Neal who is 6 months older than me and was one of my BEST friends growing up, got married in Mexico *where he, his family, and my grandma are now living* a few months ago. I couldn't attend the wedding, no matter how much I tried/wanted to. No money and no time. So my other cousin David *also Neal's cousin* came home from a Mexico to South Dakota to *home* Idaho trip a few days ago, and another one of my cousins went up to his house to get a disk of wedding pictures. David's wife's exact words were, "the bride and the groom have decided to keep the photos in the family and they aren't available to outsiders." (She happens to be 'family' because her sister is the one who married Neal.) That was a slap in the face for both my cousin Lydia *who was the one who went for the pics* and my mom and me. I am really really *searches for a decent word* MAD. :veryangry: and hurt. I grew up with this guy, I'm his cousin and they dare tell me I'm an 'outsider'? Are all families like this or is it just mine????