Ok, so I am giving my friend and mentor my best doe (PGCH) after she kids this season as a thank you for all the help that she has been to me in getting started with goats. ( I was not an easy case to teach! LOL) Anyway I just love this lady to pieces and would do just about anything for her...she's just one of those people. HOWEVER, she is friends with another breeder that I've had some issues with...this other lady has put me down behind my back and been a bit catty towrds me to say the least. Anyway at the most recent show....she was looking at my doe and was telling everyone that she was going to be her doe after my friend is done with her because when she kids out for my friend they have a deal where she is going to get her. MY BEST doe.... going to a woman who has NOT been kind to me and hasn't said the nicest things about me to her clientele. (I have NO idea why she doesn't like me by the way.. I've never done anything to her and I used to think she was my friend until she stabbed me in the back in another recent incident) So my question is.... is there any tactful way to tell my friend... I'm giving her my doe.... but if she doesn't want to keep her... I'd like her back? Would that be rude to say or is that a fair option? I know she is friends with this other breeder and I'm not one to start drama so I'd rather not get into anything... I'd much rather it just be a simple... I'm thankful for all the help... here is a gift, if you decide to place her out in the future please just give her back to me?