This is extremely difficult for me to share but I am in desperate need of a prayer or two. My only sister is just 10 months younger than me, has 2 beautiful kids and is a hard working and loving person and is my best friend, she put herself on the back burner one too many times with her health as she has no health coverage and could not afford to miss work. Well, she is now in the hospital with heart problems, went through a heart catherization today and will possibly need to go to the "big city" hospital to have the electrical short in her heart fixed. I am so angry with my own mom because well, to put it nicely, mom has some serious mental health issues and has really done nothing but upset my B I L by being a very selfish type person, putting herself at the center of attention and not seeming to notice that she caused most of the stress with my sister. My B I L is so full of anger and hate for my mom at this point, I really do not know how to tell my mom to back off. She insists on being "with my sister" but requires my B I L to pick her up and drive her to the hospital all the while doing nothing but complaining and moaning about her own health, which angers him even more as he see's her putting herself first instead of keeping her mouth shut and being there for her grandkids...royally pisses me off too that my mom NEVER offers to take the kids for a few hours, and when asked, she has other things to do. I am rambling here, I know but I am so torn between doing what is best for my sister and telling my mom to back off or breaking my mom's heart by telling her the truth, that and being so scared for my sister's health and I can't help but have such awful thoughts going through my head and all the "what if's" are just making me crazy. When I get to the point of thinking that I would just love to shake some sense into my mom I feel guilty because she IS my mom and I'm afraid that if I do keep my mouth shut, my B I L is going to snap and be a not so tolerable guy. I don't know what to do, sometimes I even wonder if my mom is the normal one and I'm screwed up. Thanks for letting me get this off my shoulders, it has been a knot in my heart with an ache all day long, the ache has disappeared since I've gotten it out, but I know that you guys understand the need to vent.