Severely POed

Oh, Talitha. I am so sorry!
Will ray: that the reservations all work out.

 

I know how you feel. My dad and I get into fights about them all the time, but luckily he has no say whatsoever in what I do anymore. Although once, when we kept them in the backyard he threatened to take them to an auction and I told him if he even tried it I would be gone so quick he'd never see it coming and I wouldn't be coming back. Of course, I actually have quite a few places that I can go if I need to, not sure if you have an option like that.

Yes I realize that my dad does love me (in his own strange way), but I have to say that if I didn't have my animals to keep me sane, I would have left a long time ago, if I didn't go insane first. Luckily he has FINALLY realized this, and doesn't even really complain about the two bottle babies I've had. (oh he's not too happy about it, but he lets me get away with it now)

 

I'm so sorry Talitha. I know you were wanting to rebuild your herd this year. Your dad is just trying to do the best thing. Hang in there. ((hugs))

 

Although situations may be very different some things here ring as the same. As a Dad of three teens I ran into a spot awhile back where I had to sell our whole herd of goats the chickens, and the rabbits. Inside I tried to figure everyway in the world around it but just had to accept the truth that it was what it was. My heart and my spirit was crushed. I hated telling my daughter and sons that we had to do these things. They worked hard helping me with everything and I felt like I was jerking a dream out from under them. They didn't understand then but now they do. I don't think your Dad wants to hurt your feelings at all. Its just there may be no other way at this point. He may be like me and has a hard time showing exactly how he feels but I can bet he feels bad about this for you as well.
I hope this will work out good for you. I know its real tough. We are just now beginning to get on our feet. Whatever happens, DONT give up.

 

I am sorry you are going through this. I don't know your situation, but as a parent native87 has a good point, sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do and we don't always handle it the best way. Chin up and just keep dreaming!

 

I agree with the last two posts. As a parent, sometimes we have to make choices that well....stink. As a young adult it is good to remember there are different seasons in life. Maybe this season is a goatless one but the next may include a huge herd. Just because you are angry and hurt doesn't mean you have to act on it. You have a choice. Maybe respecting your dad's choice now will make him reconsider in the future?

 

It's hard feeling like you have no control over what happens in your own life...but that's just part of living with your parents...You want freedom to do whatever you want but you still need your parent's financial support...so, of course, they get the final say.

I'm sure your dad is trying to do what's best for everyone. Moving is difficult enough without the added stress of making arrangements for animals...not to mention the money aspect of keeping animals.

I wish things were easier for you...I know how hard it is to have to sell all of your pets...I went through the same thing as a teen with my horses and goats when my parents got divorced and we had to move. You will get through it...but it sucks...

 

Talitha, that was very mature of you to realize that

I hope that everything works out for the best, even if it does mean you will need to re home your goats.
With age comes wisdom, I may not be a parent but I do have the heart and mind of one and do know that though the choices made by parents are not always easy ones to make.