[Goats Rock]

Maybe this isn't the place to post stuff like this, but, I don't FB or any of that . I just need some moral support from people that
are caring.

I have had some major abdominal pain for a few months- the Dr. (nurse practitioner, I do not have any health insurance) thought
maybe IBS, etc. After a CT scan yesterday- the results are pretty grim. Pancreatic and liver cancer. (I don't drink or smoke....ever).

What a major kick in the teeth- we are trying to get the dairy back up after 2 yrs. of Covid shutdown- just kidded tons of kids, some really
hard births, some terrible losses, just to get milk, we are testing milk, cleaning and then getting inspected next week. My son has poured his life into my herd- (as I have)
I can't just quit now- He will take over- but we thought, later- when I retire...

How do I tell my family my diagnosis? I am only 62, really thought that I had many years left. To know I may not see Summer or Winter at the latest, really sucks.
Anyway- anyone have any ideas how to tell 4 adult kids and grand kids? I do have dr. appts. next week, to see if anything can be done.

Sorry if this makes people uncomfortable, but I don't have a lot of local friends to talk to. It is a small town and people talk.....

 

[Rancho Draco]

My gosh. I'm sorry I don't have any advice but just wanted to send some prayers and strength your way.

 

[Lil Boogie]

Oh no..... I'm so so sorry😭. The sooner you tell them the better. Holding it in all to yourself will only make you feel worse. You CAN get through this, and we'll all be praying for you. You are strong, and you can make it through this. I know how rough it can be and will get, but don't stop. Keep doing what your doing. Keep a positive outlook, okay? I'm very sorry.😟

I'd just sit the family down and tell them.

 

[Tanya]

Oh no how sad. So sorry you are going through this

 

[KY Goat Girl]

I am so sorry. I can’t even imagine what it’s like to be you right now. I just want to give you a big hug but unfortunately I can only send virtual hugs, prayers, and positive thoughts. I will be praying for you and your family. Stay strong.
‘I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.’ Philippians 4:13 KJV

 

[friesian49]

I'm so sorry to hear, that puts all the small things we worry and stress about in focus. I can't imagine having to tell them, but I think for your peace of mind, that'd be the best overall. We're thinking of you!

Kelly

 

[happybleats]

Thank you for trusting this forum with your pain. Just goes to show what a family we are here. I'm very sorry for your diagnosis. I will put you on my prayer list!!
For your family. Be honest. Be straight forward. Allow them time to process. Then let them help! As for you..keep on keeping on best you can!

Hugs

 

[Chanceosunshine]

My heart hurts for you. I am praying that God touches your body, that He gives you wisdom in how to talk to your family and that He puts wise doctors in your path.

 

[Goatastic43]

Oh I’m so sorry! I can’t imagine what you must be feeling right now. I would bring them all together and tell them. The support would make it easier on yourself. Just know we all are praying for you! Stay strong and know that miracles do happen! My grandma was “supposed” to pass from stomach cancer, but her she is 3 years later at 82 walking 3 miles a day, thanks to the Lord! Sending hugs and lots of love!! ❤🙏

 

[Boer Mama]

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I can’t imagine the stress/heartache.
I agree that you should tell them as soon as you can and give them time to process it. There have been cases of people kicking stage 4 cancer- I would say to keep an open mind to alternative options to try to fight it along with what your dr’s recommend.
We will be praying for you to have the strength to fight and to be able to stay positive 🙏🙏🙏

 

[Dandy Hill Farm]

Oh my goodness I'm so sorry to hear that. I will definitely be keeping you and your family in my prayers. 🙏✝❤

 

[GoofyGoat]

Oh my, i can’t imagine the emotions you’re going through. (Huge hug) I guess the only way to tell your family is to just tell them. Don’t give up hope, you’ll be in my prayers and we are here for you to vent, cry or if you need support! 🙏🏻

 

[luvmyherd]

This may end up long but this is a tender subject. First of all; this is exactly the place to share. We are family here.
At 70 my husband and I often muse about how to break such news to our children and grandchildren. We never come to a conclusion.
I do remember years ago I had a lump in my breast. I waited for the negative biopsy before I told my kids. My daughter was very offended (she was 14) but I didn't want them to worry needlessly.
Not that it says what should be done. Just that it is hard.
I am the type who would keep it inside for as long as possible as I know how sensitive my children are (especially my daughters). That could very well be bad but we all have different personalities and needs.
I will stop now as this is your story not mine. But please feel comfortable coming here to let us know how you are doing. We care here.
I just had to have extra blood work done today because my annual checkup showed a possible problem so these kind of thoughts have been on my mind.
We will be keeping you and your family in our best innermost thoughts as you go through this trying time.💞

 

[alwaystj9]

Just a virtual hug and wishes for times of calm and peace when you need it.
And strength, lots of strength.

 

[Moers kiko boars]

Get a second opinion, blood tests. Make sure that diagnosis is correct. Once you can get an idea of what options you have. Then speak with your family. If you feel confident on what direction you want to go, then discuss. Honestly, a specialists in that field is where I would go. There are organizations that could help support you in this medical situation.
Sending prayers to you. 🛐✝

 

[happybleats]

A second opinion is very wise

 

[luvmyherd]

Sending hope. We care.
🤲

 

[tiffin]

I'm so sorry to hear this, I am also 62 and can't imagine what you are going thru. So much left to give, so many things yet to do so don't give up yet. Rely on your family for support and help. I know it's hard to ask for help, 'but they're so busy already with their families' is always my thought. You said 'a major kick in the teeth' and I can well imagine how I would have felt. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[ksalvagno]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm glad you are getting a second opinion. Definitely just be honest and straightforward with your kids. Will be praying for you.

 

[FarmerDad]

My wife and I have also talked about this. I work at a hospital and have seen this time-and-time again. It made us talk about it. First, I would limit the telling to the children. I would do it all at once so that you don't get the same question over and over. I would tell them 1) the diagnosis. 2) what can or cannot be done. 3) what your wishes are in what's called a "living will". We both decided we'd want to be told "straight and honest" and our kids agreed when we asked them about it. The other thought we had, if the ill person wasn't dealing with it well, is the other person would be a spokes person. They'd know as much about everything as the ill person and they'd lead the meeting and be the point of contact for any questions. That way, the ill person can plead illness and go lie down if the conversation became harder.